Remember, August is Upon Us
Having A Child vs. The Ego Empire
I have been married for 11 years now and every time my wife and I consider having a child we decide again not too. A very wise woman once told me that at the moment in one’s life when the idea of having a child comes into play, having the child is the only worry but once you have had a child you will have a million worries. Don’t get me wrong having a child can be beautiful but over these past eleven years, my wife and I have learned to look outside the box of possibilities and in doing so have considered the following factors:
1.) Genetics
a. Both of our fathers were adopted thus we do not know exactly what genes reside on such side.
i. Possible birth defects
ii. Health concerns
1. Cancer
a. This we are aware of because cancer is what took my fathers life.
b. Known factors
i. My mother had cancer
1. Skin
2. Breast
ii. My mother suffered from mental illness
2.) Reincarnation
a. It has been said that once you allow a new friend into your life you open the door to those they know as well.
i. Based on the idea of reincarnation, what type of child/person was mine in a past life
1. Of course we would pray for the soul of our child to be blessed and cleansed prior to having beginning the process of having a child
ii. What kind of people did my child know/hang out with
iii. What will my child become
1. Will I be able to guide such a soul
2. Will I be able to support mentally, spiritually, and physically, such a life?
3.) Love
a. Will my wife or I be able to give the huge amount of love any child needs during the first five-ten years of its life?
i. Would we need a babysitter during the part of every day?
1. What type of person would the babysitter be
a. Everyone has issues, some just hide theirs better than others
i. What type of influence would my babysitter be upon my child
b. What if something were to happen to my wife or myself, would our child still be able to receive the love he or she would need to grow and prosper
4.) Cost
a. For my child to be the well-rounded person I would hope for it to be, would I be able to provide such opportunities for my child to benefit from?
b. Food
i. Would I be able to provide the nourishing food my child will need especially during the first ten years of his or her life when there brains are developing the most
c. What if we have more than the one we were planning for
i. Twins
ii. Triplets
5.) World Population
a. Aren’t there enough people in the world
6.) What is normal
a. Will my child be born mentally and or physically challenged
b. Will my child have a learning disability
c. Will my child be gay or a lesbian
i. My wife and I would not care what sex our child would be interested in.
1. What life lessons would my child have to learn from as one who is interested in the same sex?
d. Will my child be a social butterfly or will he or she close themselves out to the world?
i. How would either possiblity affect the child’s life, my life, as well as those they associate with
1. Lives our child would know
2. Lives our child would not know
ii. Will my child become sexually active at a young age and if so what about the possibilities of becoming a grandparent much earlier than I would have hoped
1. We can’t live our child’s life for them
7.) The future of my child
a. The environment
i. Global warming
ii. My own neighborhood
iii. My countries government
b. Head Injury
i. Car accident
ii. Sports related accident
iii. War
1. Body dismemberment
a. Psychology/psychiatry
c. My child’s life purpose
i. Will my child grow to be old and happy
ii. Will my child only live to be a certain age
1. Will I be able to handle my child’s lose should they go before me
iii. What lessons will I have to learn from my child
1. Remember, they are teachers too
Yesterday my wife and I met with a dear friend of ours who we thought was happily married with two lovely children. We learned that things were not as happy as they had appeared to be. Our friend was unhappy, working to support the entire family as well as was struggling to make sure the only kind of formula her child could ingest was available no matter what the cost. Her first born son had behavior issues and her husband was just now beginning to see a psychiatrist. She confessed to us that although she had played it off over the years that all was well, in reality it wasn’t. She went on to say that had she known then what she knows now, despite the fact that she loves her children and husband very much, she would consider strongly the idea of not going through what she has learned thus far.
My purpose in writing all of this isn’t to deter anyone from having a child that feels they are ready to have one, it is to remind us all that there is more than the idea or chance of getting pregnant and I feel that we as a society should think deeper about the possibilities of such an idea before following through with the act.
Note: If after precautions have been made not to have a child and my wife and I have a child anyway, our child will honestly be recognized as needing to be here for whatever reason thus we would accept such a reality with open arms.
History can show that the human race has persevered throughout the ages during difficult times both environmentally as well as economically but that was then and this is now. Our world, which we continue to pollute, is being filled with chemicals and waste never seen before all the while mother earth is gasping to keep not only us but also the rest of the earth’s environment alive and plentiful.
Each of the above possibilities mentioned can stretch even deeper into the realm of “What If’s” thus I believe it should be up to the couple who are either planning to have a child or who are simply having sex to weigh these as well as other factors not mentioned before taking a chance on adding to a population that has for decades had issues caring for it’s own. People complain about paying taxes but fail to realize that some of such money goes to paying for someone’s child who is mentally and or physically challenged while other tax money is used to keep criminals off the streets while still other money is used to provide positive environments for children to be surrounded in, such as after school programs.
Today we have people starving in some of the riches countries in the world were you can go hunting on a full stomach. We have subconsciously become the largest parasites this world has ever known as we gobble up the land around us while destroying our food supply.
Man’s selfishness and his individual war upon his own ego empire has run amuck. Common sense seems to have disappeared giving way to an old faith that one’s child will be born normal, what ever normal is, not taking into account the varies sacrifices that will need to be made regardless not to mention should there child not be either born normal or contend with physical and or mental challenges latter in there life that the parents of such child may not be able to handle.
By bringing a life into this world, we give ourselves endless chances to grow through our children and with our children mentally, physically, as well as spiritually. Such lessons can be beautiful as well as inspiring despite the challenges that are faced.
My only question to you is, are you ready?
Blessed Be-
London, I’m Calling
London, you are like a sister, of course not my sister for I adore you. You make me laugh, cry, love, and desire. I have tasted you and enjoyed your company despite the fact that it was only for a number of hours. I dreamed with you as I stared at your teddy bear you call Paddington on a cold January day back in 2010 and did so a virgin to your energy, naked.
I absorbed the air that you breathed as I drank from you with my lips. I touched you, relished in you, and to this day dream of you hoping we will meet again.
Although I have left you for now, I hope you understand that within the core of my soul/my being I feel as though I need you everyday.
You make me sing as well as squeal like a little girl when I think of you. Did I also mention you make me horny baby?
London, England I’m yours if you ever want me.
Blessed Be-
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